God Gave Me You

“God gave me you” – Very deep I know! “You are God’s gift to me” – Even deeper I know !

Ian our baby’s name means “God’s Gift”, we as parents search a million sites, read ten books to decide on a name for your child that has a beautiful meaning. Biblically when you see, names really had lot to do with what that person grows to become and most importantly in many places God himself chose those names for them, which defined their life. We as parents, didn’t want to decide on Ian’s life, as we are not God! We just wanted to give him a name that makes us remember and realise what we need to be in his life, thats how Ian came up! Ian being “God’s Gift” in our life and the fact that God gave us Ian, made us very responsible as parents to be the best we can for him, in the form of guide and support to bring him each day closer to what God wants him to be!

Parenting teaches us a lot of things, sometimes when i think about it it is a brilliant way of mastering

Management/prioritising/sanity and most importantly understanding the love   God has on each one of us if we as earthly parents could bestow so much on Ian. Some of the things i learnt,

Time Management – Making up for your sleep when he sleeps, Running errands each time he is sleeping, making sure everything is perfectly done before he wakes up and making sure you are there each time he needs you near him.

Prioritising – Giving up everything you held near you, so that you can be there for him. To give up all that we were, to be happy and joyous around him and enjoy his every moment, cause seeing him grow teaches and makes you learn so much that nothing in this world would be able to teach you.

Sanity – Maintaining your sanity, even when He is crying his lungs out at 3 AM and you don’t know what to do in your greatest tired situations ever.

Love – Learning to love people around you, learning to allow people in your life as Ian brought a lot of people together, learning to accept each other. Love is a strong word, and i know you all might think it is so typical of me to type Biblical reference, but if one actually tries hard to follow each of the statement when loving someone then you would know the deep meaning behind these beautiful verses.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (From the Bible)

Learning to Love, as God the Father and Jesus christ loves Humanity.

As every new mom, i went through many frustrations and everything which was actually good around me i considered it bad! I wanted every blessing to be removed from my life, each person that came forward to help me, I felt like they were thorns hurting me, just cause I was unable to take so much of advice, care and talks and also could not bear my change of appearance, my weakness and my pain. When you read about things online, you read about what is called as postpartum depression! Yeah right, I am depressed, thats great made me feel even worse! Suddenly all the happiness and the joy runs out of the window and all i can remember is that I am frustrated and I wait each time for my hubby to come to bombard him with my frustration and pain! Just then I read what I wrote and left it in draft mode(Woes of Being a New Mom), I laughed at myself and said ” sometimes what you write, you write for yourself” Just then his name popped up “God’s Gift” amongst all the frustration, i suddenly realised what a mess I am creating for myself, I needed to give up all this frustration and look into his eyes, enjoy when he smiles, hug him when he cries, hold him and make him feel safe love him as much as I can and leave all the worries behind. Love the people who are around to help me, as I am blessed to have them! My dearest husband told me one thing, don’t be depressed as if something horrifying happened in your life, in-fact don’t you ever be depressed as there is nothing that has gone wrong in our life that we need to sit with our hand on our head and cry over! WE JUST GOT A GIFT FROM GOD!

We need to focus on how we are going to Bring him up the way God wants us to bring him up. Just a message to all the mothers out there, Yes you will go through tough roads ahead of you, you might never feel like looking at yourself in the mirror anymore, you might feel so dead due to all the tiredness and pain, don’t give up that smile of yours, don’t give in to tears and anger! Look at the bundle of joy you hold in your arms each minute, and remember that nothing can compare to that moment. Kick off your depression! Find Solutions ! Manage Time, prioritise bridge between things, maintain and love people who are around you and relationships which would matter in the long run. Be happy, cause the child sees you the most ! 

I just wanna say Ian walking into our life taught us things I would have never learnt all my life if I would not have become a parent, and indeed God’s most amazing gift in anyone’s life would and will always be a child given by him, thats when I wanna tell to all those married couples our there, who are trying to decide themselves about the time they want the child, to stop doing that and let God decide and to those who already have a child and want to bring them up just the way you want, try to stop and think if that is the right way or not.

Teach the child the right things to build his character first, then you can give him the best of education in the best of institutes. Teach him the right manners, then you can give him the best of attire from the best of brands. Teach him to respect people with words and from heart, then you can ask him to get a place in society! Teach him the True meaning of Life, and the Absolute and perfect Will of God and I am sure everything above would be taken care of automatically. Teach the child from the very first word and step he takes! You as parents have a huge responsibility bigger than many other responsibility, be prepared and make sure you are not irresponsible regarding it. As i write all this, I know the fear within my heart of how I am going to bring up someone in all the things i mentioned above! Everyone has the fear, I just need to take “One day at a time” DO my best today with the help of God and leave the rest aside for tomorrow.